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A to Z – thoughts and thanks my reflection

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So it is done, the A to Z has been packed up in April’s hand luggage and placed on the carousel of memories it is time to move to the next challenge to set course on my next path in the blog-o-sphere but before we wave good-bye to April and the fun that has been had. I would like to share reflections on what has been learnt and enjoyed over the course of the 26 posts from A to Z.

Blogging takes time, commitment and brain cells. Tales from Tedium was but a few posts old when I signed up. Posting to schedule was nigh on impossible at times but between long shifts and needed sleep breaks I did get the whole alphabet covered. Time is precious and to create a post worth reading takes contemplation planning and preparation followed by editing, tweaking and revising. I shall not be winging it next year, next year I shall properly prepare and perhaps even pre write some letters to make sure I keep up.

I am very lucky. Posting on gratitude thinking of  things I appreciate and am blessed to have experience has been a fabulous exercise for me personally. During the month of April there have been a number of issues that needed to be dealt with M – moan day is perhaps the only evidence of this frustration that dripped into the blog posts https://talesfromtedium.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/m-moan-day , so sorry about that blip. I maintained a positive outlook during challenging times and I am sure that it was my alphabetical obsession with being grateful that facilitated this. (Lets not get to a chicken and egg situation here but you know where I am heading.)

On to the lessons, I can improve! Thanks to the stats I can peer into the blog records and see what was enjoyed most, what you as my readers have liked and also what might have fallen a bit flat.
1st lesson , comments posted on my mobile phone do not upload, I am sorry to those who thought I was being ignorant and not answering I tried and failed but will repost shortly.
2nd lesson (needed) my wordpress basics are just that BASIC I need to improve layouts and menus to make things easier to navigate.
3rd lesson, is to stay a blog ahead, I am going to aim to always keep something up sleeve and to be able to prepare properly to post.
4th lesson, a big part of the A to Z is to visit other blogs I tried and while I have read over 500 posts on other A to Zs  this is just a drop in the ocean. Next year I shall have to set aside dedicated reading time.

Time to say thanks!
Today I am tired but I am thankful. I am grateful that I did not have to get out bed till lunch time (ok 10 am) I am please I sat there with my laptop and read. My daily reads have tripled many others I have liked some I have laughed with. To each  blogger a huge thank you for sharing!

A special thanks goes out to you the reader. There are some of you I know in person, (Swedish one don’t kick my butt this is not an Oscar speech gone wrong! Friends from long ago, to followers from recent weeks I thank you. Your clicking of the like buttons and comments have cheered me on and I shall not forget this. A special thanks to  http://galeriaredelius.wordpress.com , K.Jacqleene from http://graceandcandor.wordpress.com ,Joe from http://joeowensblog.wordpress.com and http://mauldinfamily1.wordpress.com who have shown constant support in their words over the last month.

One last substantial thank you, a gift of appreciation in words to the organisers of the challenge to Arlee Bird, at Tossing it Out, http://tossingitout.blogspot.co.uk and all who helped him behind the scenes. Sir I salute you.

So now April is over,
the challenge has been done,
It time to keep on blogging more,
it is time to have some fun.
To all who posted A to Z
Who typed the A,B C
Unleash your keybords once again
It’s time for typing free.
As May sun shines upon us
Just have a little rest
The April challenge was brilliant
As a participant I was blessed.
I thank the Genius Arlee Bird
His challenge took on wings,
A brilliant months of posting
On so many different things.
In just eleven months
The A will call to me.
For one things guaranteed
I will participate in next April’s A to Z.

Woops we are running late again … Well Wubble-u if for wishful thinking.

When all this started I may have been suffering from March Madness, the April challenge seemed a doddle, throw a few words together and hey there is a blog post. Not too difficult is it…. but then the W word became involved work, which I am grateful for, work which is paying the bills, work which has taken up 31 of the last 50 hours. So work is being blamed for my recent tardy posting in the April challenge, with only W, X, Y and Z to go I shall hope to be caught up by this time tomorrow and have only Z to post.  So with apologies for the delay here is my W for today.

I forget how many times I have heard the sigh of despair that is followed by the words “it’s wishful thinking” denoting the failure of hopes or the disappointment at the outcome of a situation. So things didn’t work out, plans flopped outcomes were not as hoped. When I hear that sigh I want to stand up and shout a bit… “So keep wishing”, keep looking for the best and become the change that you want. For it is up to the individual to put wishful thinking into place. Working with challenging behaviours, be it with children, adults or perhaps even the odd work college (in the past) operating on optimum positivity can be hard, but when my grin factor fades and the challenge becomes a chore I know I am on  a hiding to nothing. It is then more than ever that I need to sit and think – it is time for wishful thinking.

Some time ago, I worked with a person who had a personality that tended to clash with mine; lets call him Mr Difficult. I was consumed by the negative aura that he omitted as soon as  he entered the building, it affected everyone. The service users behaviours would change and it was a chain reaction that led to many difficulties that I cannot disclose. There was not option, I was either going to have to change jobs or change my daytime routine, the latter was easier.

Mornings were the worst, so instead of turning up with the minimum amount of time to spare getting in and out as quickly as possible I got in early. I made Mr Difficult a cup of tea, checked the task list for the day and prepared as much as I could. Mr Difficult also came in early (but I beat him in), I greeted him with a smile and a cheerful hello, confused he responded in a curt but polite manner we did not converse but worked in silence. That day was better.

When I got home that night, I wondered if the change was “wishful thinking” I sat and listed all the things that had perturbed me in the previous weeks and wondered how I could change them, IF I could change them. I chose three things that could be altered to benefit us all and sent a polite email. Mr Difficult did not reply before I left for work the next day, but while I waited for his response I continued to smile and be cheerful. Over the next week if I was on days I would make us both a cup of tea, write lists to do and work quietly waiting for something to be said slowly changing displays and work areas.

Two weeks after I had emailed Mr Difficult, I walked into to work on a Monday morning to find a cup of tea waiting for me, “Morning” was called out from the store cupboard Mr Difficult had it seemed succumbed to the wishful thinking. Things were never easy between us, as colleges we both knew that we were perhaps too similar, to stubborn  but while we never became friends once we had both embraced wishful thinking we were able to make a difference to the team.

Todays wishful thinking is that I will complete this A to Z … so from a little Miss (not quite so) Difficult, Today I am grateful for wishful thinking, for hopes and dreams for time to ponder on how we can improve things and for becoming the difference we want to see.

Time to post my T early. Thank you!

Time to reflect seems to have been an ongoing theme in my posts on appreciation, thanks and gratitude as part of my April A to Z. Today I am posting a day early trying to get ahead of the game while time allows. This week will be chaotic as I have a number of twelve-hour shifts to face.

Today I aim to reflect on what a month of blogging has bought me, and yes it is a month since I started Tales from tedium. I shall also try to look at what will come next, for my first post I should perhaps have called myself an accidental blogger. Most posts were not pre-planned or prepared for just typed in the moment and edited once before putting them out there.

So first to my readers – A massive thank you for being here and sharing my words I hope you enjoy them and I also hope you will continue with me to see what comes next. For the comments I am grateful, you have all been so kind, I appreciate the time you take to read and post all in such a positive manner.
To the plans for the future, well as I have found on my journeys through other blogs, the world is my lobster and lobsters have claws, I can grab on to what I choose and grow in the way that fits me most. I have wondered about posting some of my short fiction, and possibly a poem or two. I hope to indulge my imagination more freely. I am pleased I have time to plan time to prepare and through the blog I will be able to set my own pace, possibly introducing a part of my blog for recipes and frugal tips, (please don’t hope for house-keeping advice I operate on the fire fighting strategy with that). The A to Z has taught me lot about blogging, the most important lesson is that there is so much more to learn.

Tales from tedium, was so named not because I think of my life as boring, but that I feel I am nothing extra ordinary, just another single mum trying to make ends meet. Even in the most mundane of moments there is a tale to tell, if it is interesting or not is down to the teller. I hope that my tales are not tedious and with time the telling will become more polished and more pleasurable. Time will be needed in the months that come and time is a commodity that cannot be recycled.

Today is a post on gratitude as part of my A to Z, I would like to mention a few bloggers that have brightened my reading time, given inspiration and taught me a great deal just by being on the web …there are many more out there (because of time pressures I have limited myself to three)

Mancakes, Oh Mancakes, http://mancakestheblog.wordpress.com/ you do make me smile the pace of your writing the tone that is set when I log on and see a new post in my feed from you I pause and grab a cuppa so I can chuckle and read…. this might not be a recommended reading method unless you can prevent the tea shooting from your nose.

Chilli Sage and lemon, savoury, sensible but with a smile and a shopping list, not a blog for the hungry reader, thank you for I am back to budgeting and planning my weekly meals. Many interesting recipes have been salivated over … http://chillisageandlemon.wordpress.com/

Hey Beergut, essays from the cougars den. Again I can only issue praise, the posts are thought-provoking led me to a long discussion with my son on how women were perceived. A recommended read. http://thecougarden.wordpress.com/
These three are but a few of the blogs I enjoy there are so many more… and so many more to discover!
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Today I am posting early in the A to Z I might get my U post up tomorrow but it is time dependant. I am grateful today for many things and the time to enjoy to reflect and to plan.
Have a great day, Becs xxx

Reflection, Reserch and Rabbit Pies!

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Reflection has played a massive part of my posts on the theme of gratitude. Looking back over my life so far has given me a great deal to smile over. Reflecting on past joys should not detract from the right now, indeed memories should inform our happiness and guide us through experience to future smiles. Right now is the most important moment, we can plan for our futures celebrate our past but we must ensure that the moment we are in is the best it can be. Being grateful for the moment we are in is not always possible but even in the difficult situations we can always see good.

Right now I am greatful for rabbit pies, not something you would expect from the average pescetarian. Research was not required for I pulled out the old tried and tested recipe popped the top on a bottle of cider and stewed two bunnies with onion, carrots, herbs and mustard seeds until the flesh fell off the bone then rolled out short crust for the bases and puff pastry for the tops- “Simples” as the meerkats say. I made these little “Bright eyed pies” for a local charity fund-raiser and they went down a storm, the first pie variety to sell out and guess what, when the results were called yes you guessed it my pies were announced the winner.
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People choose not to eat meat for various reasons, I am not a card-carrying, preaching carrot cruncher and I never will be. I choose not to eat meat because I find it upsets my digestion, I do not think that affordable, ethical meat is readily available and after the best part of ten year not eating it I don’t miss it, I don’t hanker after it, in fact I just don’t want to eat it. I respect the choice of those choose to eat meat along with those who choose not to, I hope that they respect my choice too.

When I presented my Rabbit pies, much discussion was had over my diet. I found myself almost defending my choice to a certain party. Now I know that I did not research before the fact so here is the post-mortem as to why carnivores in Britain should perhaps look at Wild Rabbit as an option if they are going to choose to eat meat. Three reasons to consider Rabbit.

1. There are an estimated 38 million rabbits in the UK and rising. (Guess what they breed like rabbits)
2. Collectively they cause approximately £100 million pounds worth of damage to crops each year. (If I hazard an educated guess there that will push up vegetable prices so everyone including the vegetarians will suffer as a consequence)

3. These animals are truly free range and never have to suffer the trauma of the slaughter house. Death for the rabbit might not be nice but it is swift.

So for those of you who have only met me through the blog posts you might be surprised by my offering for the local charity pie off. Yes this vegetarian presented rabbit pies and WON! Right now I am grateful for the rabbit pies, for the money that has been raised for local charities, Rabbit was not my only entry I also made a Mushroom and Stilton pie selection, but I knew I was catering for carnivorous. Recipe for Rabbit Pie will be posted once I have learned a little more about wordpress, I want to have a part of my blog that will be used to share recipes – so more research required.

What the F- Fungi Freinds and Family.

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First time I tried to write this morning I found myself flummoxed as what to put. The fosters fairy may have exerted her influence on me yesterday, Friday night with friends laughing and chatting lead to fuzzy headed Saturday. This morning I have been flagging to say the least. So I wrote a list made coffee and found myself some breakfast…

Mushrooms on toast, it is a favourite on delicate mornings, I think it has helped. So to my F words. Over a beer or three the “F-ing” possibilities were debated. It seems there is a theme with my friends, as flatulence was the first thing someone said… thank you for farting would just be an absurd. Fungi however, I am grateful for them this morning.

Fluke and I wander as often as time allows. A favourite place to walk is the woods above the town. Kicking up leaves, squelching through mud puddles, feeling the changing seasons around you I might only be a few minutes from the urban sprawl but I am free. Often as we walk I reminisce, Fluke is not the best conversationalist. Friends introduced us to the woodland walks, while Bob, Stella and Fluke sniffed their way along the footpaths, we wandered nattered and laughed, there are many moments in the woods that made me smile.

One occasion Fluke met a friend, he wanted to be a forager, thought himself as Somerset’s answer to Bear Grills. The three of us walked for best part of an hour to the middle of the woods. There is a water tower where paths conjoin here we stopped, selected a bench and began to make a brew.

Fires in woodlands are a big no no! I am aware of this and when dog walking I only ever want to leave footsteps. My friend thinks the same way but he was a good boyscout and came prepared. He pulled a Ghilli/Kelly kettle out of his rucksack. Lit a small fire in the base and waited for the whistle to tell us the water was boiling.

Well we waited, poked the little fire and waited some more… Soon enough (about 30 mins later) I was sat in the sunshine drinking tea. Fluke was happy as the Water tower is a great place to play fetch,  we chatted, giggled and perhaps even flirted a little it was fun.

When you walk with dogs you meet people it is an inevitable pleasure of being a pet owner, add a curious water boiling contraption and the possibility of tea on a brisk day and we became a magnet for other dog walkers. Every person that passed greeted us with smiles and a pair of local foragers stopped to admire the kettle and share their favourite locations for mushroom hunting.  A place I still need to explore.

Food and drink brings people together, it might be a fundamental of life, providing sustenance but the act of fellowship that comes from breaking bread with friends or family feeds the soul. Do you recall the last time you opened your home, laid the table to share a meal with friends and family?

For sure there have been many times that bring a smile if I muse over food related gatherings of the past, some of the funniest have been f**ked up dinners.  Burned Cous Cous, (yes that is possible). Lime cordial being used as a substitute in a recipe (that was a florescent dinner). Custard that you could eat with a knife and fork while hot (Dan still will not risk custard).  All of these moments are punctuated with the silly laughs of shared friendships and family moments.

My family and friends. I have no idea where the F’ I would be without them, so today on the F-day I am appreciative of fellowship and friendship. Fortune shone upon me when I found my friends when I was gifted my family. For this I am forever grateful.

For those who haven’t met him … this is Fluke.

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A to the Aim of my Alphabet Blog!

 

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Aims and goals drive us though life set our focus generate motivation. Or at least they do with me. I was blank when I sat down this morning trying to think of an A to start my April Alphabet Challenge. I had been able to cover almost every other letter in my mind while Fluke and I walked this morning, but the A it avoided me.

A is about …(again a barrage of B’s came to mind so tomorrows post should be a doddle) so with a second coffee I set to reading the other alphabet posts that were hitting the web, so many to read and all so ambitious to a new little blogger like me.

“A” remained ambiguous but somewhere in the annex of my mind I hoped that I could locate an “A” to start the day. I could write of Abba Driven Whisk Singing, this is a lesser known pass time I think may be unique to Weston Super Mare which requires a Swedish friend, her hubster and tea-cosy hats but surely that should be included under “M” for music or “S” for singing.

Almost at the point of brain implosion, I thought “Aberaeron” a coastal town in West Wales where the best fish and chips can be found at the Celtic Cafe on the harbour side. A fabulous location full of childhood and adult memories, but how would it fit with the rest of my month?
Again I reverted to the drawing board, you see my Alphabet blog may not have an official theme or topic but the more I read and think the more I am aware that it needs one.

Adamant not to give up I pondered on…
Perhaps it is prudent at this point to show my appreciation to Arlee Bird, http://tossingitout.blogspot.com who has presented us with the A to Z April Challenge. Many thanks are extended and already so many brain cells expended.

And there we have it, in a nutshell. My “A”, I shall Aim to show my Appreciation through the Alphabet. I am sure it will be a personal journey I hope those who follow will enjoy the posts along the way.

It is all too easy to lose direction, to become distracted become complacent in our fast-moving world. So though April I shall attempt to appreciate those aspects of my life that have added to the experience of being me.

A is for Appreciation, Aims, Ambitions, and so much more.
I thank you for reading.